I have a question for y’all this morning. Do you think I’m being impetuous?
I have to say, I’m in my feels this morning. I can’t seem to make David understand where I’m coming from when I say we can’t just sit around and wait for our house to sell before we do anything else. We should have a plan I say, and I keep getting told to slow my roll.
When we made the decision to sell our house and travel, the first thing I wanted to do is secure the storage facility so that we would have somewhere to put all of our furniture. The way the market has been, and according to my realtor, the house is going to sell fast. David doesn’t have the faith in this that I do. So what happens when our house sells out from under us? Then where’s all of our stuff going to go? I know…he’s gonna start trying to get rid of it. And that’s what I don’t want to happen.
When the plan changed to, OK now we’re going to get a Lakehouse and an RV, I thought OK we don’t have to get storage, we’ll get the lake house and move our stuff there, then get the RV and start to travel. But when I start asking questions about why are we not doing one or the other, again I get told to slow my roll while he ”gets his head around everything.” I’m the kind of person that wants to plan, get packing, and have a place for all my stuff to go. In fact I’ve already started cleaning out rooms of their junk or trash, but I can’t pack because I don’t know where anything is going to go yet.
I filled out the sellers disclosure, for example, yesterday, and when I asked him to do his part, he just looked at me like it wasn’t important at the moment- he would do it later. Um, the house is going on the market next week, hello! I’m so confused and so tired of feeling like a push me pull you. My emotions have been on a roller coaster for two weeks now and last night I got the distinct feeling that he just wants to buy the lake house and forget everything else and immediately got depressed. That’s not what I want, and that’s not what we’ve talked about. But when I get excited and I want to start doing stuff that’s in a moving forward pattern, I get treated like I’m behaving impetuously. 🤷♀️
I just know what I don’t want. I don’t want to be put in a situation where the house gets sold out from underneath us and then we’re scrambling to find a place for our stuff to go and all of a sudden my stuff starts disappearing. Because it seems like every time we move, my stuff is not as important and we start fighting about what we’re going to keep, sell, or throw away. I don’t want to start fighting about stuff when here we are finally ready to retire and plan our future and I feel stuck. He is retiring in October. In my mind that’s just around the corner and we should be planning right now. He says we cant do anything until we know how much we will net from the sale of the house.
I get that but if the house sells as fast as our realtor is saying it will, shouldn’t we have at least storage or something for stuff to go to? Shouldn’t we have at least that much done ahead of time? That way we know what to pack to take in the RV? Whatever is left we would be taking for the RV, for sale, or to giveaway. To me that makes the most sense.
I’ve already been researching RVs and the best clubs to join for our discounts, the most affordable lake houses, and how much storage cost in case we have to do that, but I get told to slow my roll. I know our budget, so I’ve been looking at RVs and lake houses that fall within that budget, but I keep getting treated like I’m an idiot and don’t know what I’m talking about, not really, but thats how he makes me feel sometimes.
I’m not sleeping well because I’m so conflicted, my excitement is slowly turning to boredom, and my energy with it. If I don’t get to go into “let’s go mode” soon I’m afraid I’m going to be burnt out on the whole idea. I got upset at dinner last night because I felt like my dreams were being crushed. Now I’m just sitting here wondering what I’m supposed to do. I guess I’ll just keep going through the house trying to find whatever trash there is to get rid of so we’re only packing what we need, and not moving a bunch of junk from house to house. I’m still working on packing a box for the lady that lost everything, so I can keep looking for things to put in that box. I have to keep busy doing something or I will go crazy!
I’m not one to air my dirty laundry usually, and that’s not what I’m trying to do, but I truly want y’all’s opinion on whether I’m being impetuous and/or selfish. Should I in fact, slow my roll, and wait and see what happens with the sale of the house?? I really appreciate having the blogging community to talk to, you’re like a friend that I can say anything to and you won’t hold back. Can you give me some advice? In the meantime I will just pray that everything works out all right! 🙏🙏
PS: I asked him if we could go look at the lake property or an RV this weekend and he reminded me that because the house is going on the market next week, he has some repairs to make around here first. I understand that too but the last two weekends, we’ve been RV shopping, or looking at lake property. Ugh. Wish I was a genie sometimes and could just wiggle my nose and have it all be done lol. Breath. Pray. Repeat. I guess that should be my mantra for now. ☺️😉